How To Become a Self-Empowered Person

How To Become a Self-Empowered Person

What is self-empowerment? The Law of Attraction states: “Whatever we think about, we bring about.” In straightforward terms, self-empowerment is the way in which you conduct yourself, and the image you project to others. A self-empowered person takes full responsibility for his or her life and actions and realizes that they are solely responsible for their reality. It’s about imparting you with the power to take control of your own destiny and live your life on your terms.

Even the most self-assured and confident person can at times feel like they’re blundering through life. The quality of a person’s life is not determined by his or her successes but rather how he or she handles himself or herself in a problematic situation. Everyone makes mistakes. We all occasionally feel uncomfortable or feel like hiding away to save ourselves the trouble of facing difficult circumstances. Self-empowered people face life challenges head-on with the courage to overcome any obstacle.

Often, when we contemplate ways to empower ourselves, our minds jump to big, bold ideas, asking our boss for a raise, quitting our job to become an entrepreneur standing up to a bully, or training for a marathon. These are all worthwhile goals, however, the reality of effective self-empowerment is easier. By making small changes to the way we act in response to the world around us, we can easily change our mindset from one of fear to one of confidence and capability.

Success and happiness do not happen by luck. We have to make a continuous effort to be happy and successful in life. Here’s the mind-blowing secret. Everything you need to know to be successful and happy is already in you. All you have to do is know how to harness and use it. Contrary to common principle that happiness and success are difficult to achieve, the most effective control over one’s life can be gained in an almost effortless manner. Every person has the ability to change their life in one second and live the life they dream. May all beings be happy and free and may all our words thoughts and actions contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.

Here are 6 steps whereby you can begin to experience empowerment in your own life. Empower yourself and put yourself in the driver’s seat to your own personal success.

  1. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. If you want to live a great life, then you need to take full responsibility for everything. Your life is your reality. No more blaming others for putting obstacles in your way. No more creating excuses. No more blaming your past mistakes. You are 100% responsible for your success, and your failure.
  2. Challenge your inner critic. When you start to feel like you can’t achieve your goals, you have to challenge those negative thought patterns? Replace your cant’s with cans and wont’s with wills.
    Have confidence in yourself. A confident (not arrogant) image of your self will naturally project a more powerful image of yourself. Self-confidence feels good and gives you conviction.
  3. Make a positive impression. People react more positively to people who obviously take good care of themselves, dress well, keep neat and tidy and hold your posture. It’s also important to focus on what you say. Be mindful in the present and speak with a thinking mind, don’t think with a talking tongue.
  4. Don’t expect others to change. If you are unhappy with something or someone, don’t expect them to change to suit you. You can explain your feelings and perhaps suggest a way where both parties can compromise, but don’t just expect everything to change to suit you. Be prepared to make a positive change yourself and let go of relationships that do not support your growth.
  5. Be constructive. So many people are too critical, gossip or just complain too much. And humans, being the way we are, tend to slip into negative thought processes more easily than positive ones. So avoid the temptation to join the whining mob. Be positive and optimistic, provide constructive feedback on issues and participate in finding solutions to problems rather than just finding all the problems.

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Developing Self-Discipline to Achieve Greatness

Developing Self-Discipline to Achieve Greatness

Why do persons accept as truth the notion that living a disciplined life is monotonous, and why do individuals allow these beliefs to guide them to feel trapped in a mundane life? I believe that having self-control is NOT tedious, but more exactly the road to personal freedom. Discipline can lead you to what you are truly yearning for in life. Every day, the most successful people in life practice discipline. Boundaries lead to greater freedom when the discipline we establish allows for spaciousness in life. When we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to something else. Life is all about making choices. Discipline provides a person with the tools to control one’s urges, emotions, and behavior. Self-restraint allows a person to turn down instant gratification in favor of gaining the long-term satisfaction of achieving meaningful and lasting goals.

Discipline and personal self-restraint are fundamental principals for a healthy and functioning society and without them, communities around the world would be in complete disarray. As modern society continues to move faster and faster, people are increasingly susceptible to and unable or unwilling to look at the long-term effects of their actions. This further demonstrates why this is such a crucial skill to have in life. Next to having a life vision, self-discipline is the most critical component to achieving a goal. It provides you with the tools to overcome any obstacles that come your way on your path to achieving your life’s purpose.

Discipline as a key component to achieve happiness is a universal truth for all people and all beings. Spending money frivolously without financial self-control leads to uncontrollable debt and a life of scarceness. However, living on a budget and saving a portion of your income will eventually lead to feelings of abundance and freedom. Eating without limitations leads to health issues and excess weight, both of which will eventually limit your freedom. A daily schedule without any structure leads to idleness and inactivity.

A part of living life on purpose is developing self-discipline to achieve greatness. It takes hard work and determination to accomplish anything worthwhile. Deciding to be conscious of our habits, actions and behaviors leads to true lasting freedom. Creating unnecessary burdens by living life without care only leads to further hardship. Luck happens when hard work and self-discipline meet opportunity.

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Finding Happiness Through Acts of Kindness

Finding Happiness Through Acts of Kindness

Mindful living, at times has the potential to be difficult and challenging, thus providing an individual with an easy excuse to point his or her finger towards other people and other social groups as the blame for their suffering. It is much simpler and quicker to look at external factors as the root cause to a person’s hardship, rather than the more difficult choice to gaze inward and examine a person’s own action and behaviors that lead to adversity. People can only control three things in life; how an individual thinks, how a person feels, and how he or she behaves. Every other event in life is an external factor that is out of his or her control.

What role does kindness and compassion play in bridging a world that is growing increasingly fragmented? At a pivotal point in a persons’ life, when hardship and difficultly causes feelings of despair and anger, in a reality that has less opportunity for comfort of living, it feels easier to be unkind; especially when a person feels that the universe is working against them. Being assertive or speaking an opinion does not have to equate to being mean; there are ways for an individual to standup for his or her beliefs while remaining polite, compassionate, and thoughtful towards other people and other beings.

Having money doesn’t equate to success. People who behave horribly for the pursuit of financial reward do so because they’re hurting and using money as a tool to heal their pain. However, Financial wealth does not ease suffering. Truly successful people, who live life without continuous suffering do so by being kind towards all beings, knowing how to give and receive love, live joyfully, and attract abundance through unselfishness. Kindness is a good habit that has a lasting effect that supports and reinforces the quest for the good life. Helping others bestows a sense of satisfaction, and over time people who do good deeds develop a friendly and joyful personality that attracts and magnetizes those they associate with and brings kindness their way.

Selfless acts of giving, be it a smile, a word of encouragement, or the offer of a helping hand, result in an emotional uplift not only for others, but also for the individual. When a person is healed and living a meaningful life filled with kindness, abundance flourishes and success manifests in all ways. It may be a bit less complicated than what think but to a happier life lies in a person innate power to be kind. People cannot afford to continue with the negative habit of being unkind toward other people and other beings. The easiest most real solution for supporting personal growth and healing the world is being kind towards others without exception. May all beings be happy and free may all peoples thoughts words and action contribute in someway to that happiness and to that freedom for all. Peace, Peace, Peace.

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How to Cope with Transition

How to Cope with Transition

Although change is a natural state of life, coping with it can be difficult. When a person stops growing, they begin to die. Individuals need to constantly develop intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. A person grows and changes physically as they develop from infancy to adulthood and old age. They also grow and change emotionally with every experience, and grow intellectually as they respond to events and to the world. The challenge with change as a way to facilitate growth is learning to cope with transition.

Transition is a point in life when a person or individual changes from one state of consciousness or conditional understanding of the surrounding world to another state or condition. Every person goes through numerous transitions: graduating from high school, going off to college, entering the workforce, changing jobs, getting married, and having children. Change in a person’s life can be difficult. However, by developing the skills to navigate through periods of transition a person lives more mindfully and finds peace during difficult periods. Any transition that is permanent requires a person to alter their definition of the self, and a skilled person finds periods of transition to be rewarding and enjoyable. The ability to adapt during points of transition leads people to live more satisfying, enriched lives.

A person cannot control every facet of life and he or she cannot stop change from occurring. How a person responds to change will affect their overall life experience. We can only control three things in life:

  1. How We think
  2. How We feel
  3. And How We Behave or React

 

Most people fear change. They prefer routine and stability, and with any kind of transition, this change disrupts self-confidence. Fear inhibits people from taking risks. When fear relates to a positive change, it is usually linked to a fear of not being able to achieve success. Some are overly concerned about not being capable enough or of being judged, as if dignity is only measured by their concept of success or winning.

 

Here are a few tips on how to deal with transition:

 

  1. Acknowledge the change. The most important thing to do when change is happening in the workplace is to acknowledge it. Recognizing and accepting change is one of the first steps towards managing it.
  2. Face your fears. When you fear change, take some time out for yourself. Writing down these fears in an objective form can stop you dwelling on them. Go through each fear and write down what you would do if that fear came to pass. Knowing you have a back-up plan can really help to defuse the emotional anxiety.
  3. Break it down. Do a task analysis to break the transition into smaller steps so you can figure out where the problem is. Let’s take moving from computer time to another activity as a quick example:
  4. Make the end obvious. Moving on to a new activity is difficult if you don’t realize that the old one is finished. Find ways to make it clear when a task is over – pull the picture from the schedule and put it in a ‘completed’ basket or have photos of what the finished task looks like.

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How to Create a High Vibrational Life

How to Create a High Vibrational Life

Every person needs to express their feelings from time to time, and it is healthy for a person to have people in their life who will just listen and be supportive, even when a person is going through a hard period. However, there’s comes a point when an individual with good intentions can talk about their problems way too much, and even become addicted to negative experiences and emotions.

Every person sends out a conscious vibration, comprising of a person’s predominant thoughts and beliefs. As a result high vibration people have positive thoughts and feelings, and individuals who have negative thoughts and feelings emanate low vibrations. A person’s thoughts, words and actions become their reality, and every individual has periods of hardship. The process of living life on purpose and being a mindful individual occurs when a person no longer focuses on negative thoughts and beliefs, but rather consciously radiates high vibrations and understands that the current stresses of life are only obstacles on the path towards true happiness.

High vibrational consciousness establishes a healthy positive energy force that promotes healing and makes every person more beautiful on all levels. This vital healing energy supports a person’s physical, mental and emotional well-being and makes them stronger as well as happier. Low vibrational consciousness establishes harmful energy patterns that create stress and unhappiness, negatively affecting a person’s health and making them age more quickly.

The more you feel the need to share your problems with others, the more you are feeding into that negativity and pain.

  • Towards yourself creating low self-esteem
  • Towards your future prospects and relationships
  • Towards current people in your life
  • Towards events and activities
  • Towards people’s actions
  • Towards general groups and social circles
  • Towards larger, more abstract organizations

All life is a pulsation of high points and low points. When a person’s vibration is low it will be evident and a simple solution is to bring awareness to this situation and then work on increasing a person’s vibration. Low vibrations are associated with darker qualities such as hatred, fear, greed and depression. Perhaps money no longer flows, a person’s health is poor, or negative people surround an individual. However, life is ever changing and with hard work and effort a person can shift their consciousness even in difficult situation and create a high vibrational life. When a person’s vibrations are high there is a beautiful sense of living in harmony and a person is generally associated with positive qualities and feelings, such as love, forgiveness, compassion and peace. Opportunities begin to flow freely into a person’s life, they surround themselves with high-quality people, and it becomes simpler to find happiness in life.

7 ways to raise your vibration.

  1. Be mindful of your thoughts. Every thought, word or action becomes your reality. Change those negative thoughts for the positive, and your reality will likely become positive.
  2. Appreciate the beauty in life. Beauty is all around us. Stop rushing from one moment to the next and take the time to stand in the sun, smell the roses and appreciate your surroundings.
  3. Be conscious of the foods you eat. Some foods vibrate at high frequencies, and some lower. Foods covered in chemicals and pesticides, or foods found within plastic packaging will have you produce low vibrations. High-quality organic food will produce high vibrations
  4. Drink water. Always ensure you drink plenty of water (filtered is best) to assist your body in flushing out toxicity day to day. Toxicity has a marked impact on our vibration, so we must do what we can to reduce its impact within us and around us.
  5. Meditate. Meditation helps to calm your spirit down and put you in a peaceful state of mind. Just 10 minutes of meditation a day can change your life forever.
  6. Be grateful. Making a gratitude list shifts your vibrations from focusing on what you don’t have to what is already abundant in your life. There is more to be grateful for than you could possibly imagine.
  7. Practice acts of kindness. Giving to someone else (without expecting anything in return) shifts your thinking. Abundance is a high vibration. In the same vein, being kind puts you at a high vibration. Gossip or treat others badly and your vibration will suffer.

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Life is a Journey that will never be Simple

Life is a Journey that will never be Simple

Life is a journey that will never be simple. Each day there will be high points and low points, and every moment whether good or bad will be an opportunity to let go of the outcome and feel peaceful. Living life on purpose is accepting the truth that everything is temporary. All relationships come to an end, all material possessions can and will be destroyed or be taken away at any moment, and every being will one day leave this temporary material existence and move on to another form of consciousness.

1.12. Abhyāsa vairāgyābhyām tannirodhaḥ.

These mental modifications are restrained by practice and non-attachment.

Excerpt from: Sri Swami Satchidananda. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

A mindful person on a spiritual path of self-awakening has a constant desire for personal growth and self-improvement. A major step along the path of personal growth is the continuous study and practice of non-attachment. Non-attachment is a state of mind that will help an individual both in times of happiness and in times of distress. Life is a mixture of pleasure and pain, of comfort and hardship. By being attached to the highs and lows in life a person suffers unnecessary hardship. The practice of non-attachment is performed when an individual is no longer focused on the outcome, but rather on the journey. They take pleasure when good things come and view pain as a teacher for self-improvement. They no longer cling to the pleasure of life, hoping that joy will never leave, and no longer feel overwhelmed by pain, fearing that it will never end.

Practicing non-attachment is about coming to terms with reality. Observing life and evaluating all areas of life for self-improvement, preparing for the storms that are yet to come without living in fear, and having gratitude for all the good in life. Joy for the good fortune that has yet to come with an understanding that hardship shall also arrive, and accepting the truth that both hardship and good fortune shall pass in time. Attachment is all about rationalizing. Rationalizing is a way of thinking in which we tell ourselves all the things that are not true, in order to justify our current circumstance. Non-attachment is admitting the truth that a person is solely responsible for their lot in life and accepting the truth that they create their reality. A person can only control three things in life:

 

  • How a person thinks
  • How a person feels
  • How a person manages and reacts to any circumstance or event

 

It is natural for a person living in the material world, who identifies with the body and mind, to become attached to personal relationships, things and events. Attachment develops when we identify with a person or thing and believe that we need this for happiness. The material self or ahamkara will do anything to keep the object of its attachment within its sphere of influence. As a result, a person will do anything without question or moral concern in order to find temporary fulfillment. This will lead to negative behaviors like manipulation, greed, abuse and even violence. In its milder form, attachment is manifested as clinging, believing that the object of desire enhances the self. However, when a person no longer identifies with the material mind and body and identifies with the spiritual self, they start to understand the true meaning of non-attachment and begin to find lasting happiness and true fulfillment in life:

 

  • Expectations no longer control a person’s life.
  • Emotions arise, but a person has space to evaluate and use emotions at appropriate moments. Emotions don’t catch a person off guard.
  • A person has the clarity of mind and is able to see truth in all things.
  • Much does not bother a person, but they do not tolerate harmful behavior.
  • A person does not chase after happiness but just enjoys it when it’s present, and releases it when it dissolves.
  • The sense of spaciousness and freedom they feel brings a genuine contentment that can never be found in temporary experiences.

 

Being non-attached does not mean that a person does not develop deep meaningful relationships with people or he or she does not enjoy the victories in life. Being non-attached is facing the truth that anything in the physical world will not provide you with lasting happiness. Therefore, you can enjoy the riches and beauty of life without clinging to anything or any person to give you a false sense of security or identity. Thus, there is an awakening from illusion. By practicing non-attachment, we become able to endure difficult situations, knowing that this too shall pass. Simultaneously, a person can enjoy the beautiful moments of life without being constrained by the fear that happiness will end—as both the good and bad will undoubtedly end. May all beings be happy and free and may all our thoughts words and actions contribute in some way to that happiness and to that free for all.

 

  1. Focus On The Here and Now. When you are attached to your desire, your mind is focused on the future, you are worried that whatever you wish for will not come true. When you are attached to the past, your mind is focused on defining who you are based on your personal history and you are unable to change and grow.
  2. Give Up The How and Focus on the Journey by Taking Action. While you stay focused on your journey to reach your dreams, there is no worry or concern if it is going to happen.
  3. Adopt The Attitude Of Personal Growth and Contribution. View the process as a learning experience. Every challenge that happens is an opportunity for you to learn. Thus, your happiness is not contingent upon having “arrived” at the destination.

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