I feel relaxed and comfortable around others.

I feel relaxed and comfortable around others.

I feel relaxed and comfortable around others.

I am comfortable in all social situations. Being around others is one of the ways I like to unwind after a long day. Socializing is relaxing to me.

I appreciate what others have to offer. Everyone is interesting if I take the time to get to know them well. Meeting new people is exciting to me. I would even say it is a hobby of mine. There are few things that I enjoy as much as meeting someone.

I can relate effectively to a wide variety of people. Everyone is unique, just like me.

Part of the reason for my high level of comfort in this area are my social skills. I know how to speak with others, and I am an excellent listener. People like to communicate with me. They automatically trust me and feel that they can open up to me.

I feel at ease meeting new people. Everyone has the potential to be a new friend. Each time I meet someone new, there is so much potential for something good to happen.

My social comfort increases each day. I feel relaxed and comfortable around others.

Today, I am open to socializing with anyone that crosses my path. I am open to new social opportunities. I am looking forward to making stronger connections with the people in my world.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What is my greatest concern regarding social events?
  2. What can I do today to become more comfortable with others?
  3. What are some social situations that I would like to master?

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Start Living Your Dream Today

Start Living Your Dream Today

Why are you in a holding mode? People everywhere seem to be waiting for something to happen before they can begin living their dream. This is a mistake. Now is the time to begin making things happen.

You might be short on time or money, but there are still things you can do to get started. Let today be the day you start to make your dreams come true!

Use these tips to begin living your dream:

1. Realize that life gets shorter each day. It’s easy to believe that you’ll have time to do what you really want to do after the kids finish school, you have a better job, you’re retired, or more money in the bank. The truth is, there will never be a perfect time to start living your dreams.

– The amount of time we all have left gets shorter each day. Time is the most valuable resource of wealthy and successful people. It’s also the most valuable resource of the average person, but the average person doesn’t realize it.

2. Define your dream. Have a crystal-clear objective of what you’re trying to achieve. It’s not enough to have a vague idea. A vague idea isn’t motivating enough to keep you going when faced with obstacles. It’s important to have a clear picture you can keep going back to when challenges arise.

3. Work backwards. It won’t be possible to take one step from where you are to the end. There will be many steps along the way. The important thing is to find something you can do today. Keep working back from the endpoint until you find something you can accomplish right now and get busy working on it.

4. Do a little each day. A little each day turns into a lot over time. Cutting a few calories each day can result in a lot of weight loss over a year. Adding a piece or two to the wood pile each day is a lot of wood after a year.

– You can probably reach your dreams without spending eight hours each day on it. Just do something each day.

5. Deal with limiting beliefs. The primary reason you don’t already have everything you want is limiting beliefs. There are many forms of limiting beliefs:

– It’s going to take too much time.

– It’s too hard.

– I don’t have enough money to get started.

– People won’t approve.

– I’m too tired.

– I can start next year.

Any thought that prevents you from getting started is a limiting belief.

6. Ignore the people that get in your way. There’s always someone trying to get in your way. It might be a family member, friend, neighbor, or anonymous person online. You have to be strong enough to ignore those people and stick to your plan. You can have the last laugh.

7. Focus on the things you can control. There aren’t too many things you can actually control. However, it makes no sense to spend your time, energy, and focus worried about things outside of your control. Keep your attention where it can make a difference.

8. Celebrate victories. A long journey is easier with a few pleasant experiences along the way. Celebrate your progress regularly. It will be easier to reach the finish line.

It’s never too late, or too early to begin living your dream. Each second that passes by is a second you’ll never get back. There’s not a good reason to wait any longer. The time to begin living your dream is right now.

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Forever Friends A story of self-determination and a lost friendship

Forever Friends A story of self-determination and a lost friendship

Forever Friends: A story of self-determination and a lost friendship

Emily refused to let Ella make her own decisions…

..And it cost them both the friendship.

 

Short Story:

 

Ella the Elephant fell in love with Mason the monkey. She knew it was an unconventional union. But she was beaming because they were so madly in love.

 

Ella was absolutely over the moon due to her newfound love. So, of course, she had to tell her best friend, Emily!

 

While the two ladies were bathing in the sun, Ella found it difficult to contain her excitement and exclaimed, “I’m in love with Mason!”

 

Immediately, Emily stood up and screamed, “What? Mason? He’s a monkey; you can’t love a monkey! I don’t think this is a good idea.”

 

Ella was incredibly offended. Trying to remain polite, she sheepishly replied, “Emily, I know we’re best friends. But I feel it’s out of line for you to say something like that to me.”

 

At this point, Emily was flailing around in a frantic rage, “Out of line? You’re my best friend. This monkey is bad news. This love is unacceptable to our kind!”

 

Ella was growing tired of Emily’s judgmental behavior.

 

Before she could say anything, Emily walked up to her and dramatically demanded, “Well, if you’re going to be with him, I refuse to be your best friend. I will not tarnish my name by associating with a monkey lover. It’s either him or me!”

 

Ella was at a loss for words and too shocked to give a reaction. She simply got up and gave Emily a shameful gaze as she walked away.

 

 

 

MORAL: If you love your friend, accept them for who they are, even if you disagree with some of their decisions.

 

 

 

Personal reflection.

 

Emily felt a sense of entitlement. She felt she had the right to dictate Ella’s decisions simply because she was her best friend. But Ella effectively reminded her that she is free to live her own life as she sees best.

 

It’s tough to know how far to take your concern when dealing with close friends.

 

You may feel like you have to be the guard dog of your loved ones. But your vow to keep them safe can be misconstrued as obsessive and controlling behavior.

 

If you have nothing nice to say, it’s best to say nothing at all.

 

No matter how loud you scream or how hard you stomp in order to get your way, you are in no position to be the authority figure in your friend’s life.

 

It’s vital to maintaining healthy friendships that you know where to draw the line between concern and judgment.

 

Once you learn to express your concern while keeping a mindset that your advice may go unused, your friendships will strengthen tenfold.

 

Self-Reflection Questions:

 

  1. Do I expect my friends to follow my lead in all situations?
  2. How can I tactfully express my concern without sounding demanding?
  3. Do I express possessive behavior over my loved ones?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I have high standards for myself and my life.

I have high standards for myself and my life.

I have high standards for myself and my life.

I believe that we receive in life what we are willing to tolerate. Having high standards is very important to me. My income, health, performance, and the quality of the people in my life are mostly determined by my standards

When my standards are high, I am more successful, and my life is more enjoyable.

I only allow people into my life that bring kindness and support. I am willing to let go of those people that fail to treat me the way I deserve to be treated. I know there are plenty of great people out there that are available to be my friend or partner.

I have high standards for my diet and exercise routine. The foundation of my health rests on these two things. I focus on healthy foods and an effective method of exercise. I am very consistent when it comes to my diet and exercise.

I maintain very high standards regarding how I use my time. My success and progress are controlled by how I spend my time. Having a high standard in this area is critical to my life.

Today, I hold myself to a higher standard in all parts of my life. I behave in a way that makes happiness and success more likely. I have high standards for myself and my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. In what areas of my life are my low standards causing me harm or limitation?
  2. From whom did I learn these standards? Are they a good role model?
  3. What do my current standards say about me?

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How to Gain Laser Focus in a World Full of Distractions

How to Gain Laser Focus in a World Full of Distractions

Our ability to focus has been reduced dramatically. We’ve never had more distractions to deal with. And as disheartening as it sounds, many of the distractions we face were engineered to be as distracting as possible.

Our brains quickly become addicted to these distractions and our ability to focus on important work suffers.

Learning how to focus is a vital skill if you want to be productive and successful.

Overcome the distractions in your life and get things done with these strategies:

1. Single-tasking beats multitasking. Avoid fooling yourself. You’ll get more done and feel more relaxed if you focus on a single task at a time. It’s not easy for your brain to switch back and forth between different things. Set your priorities and complete them in order.

2. Do deep focus activities early in the day. Your ability to focus deeply is greatest in the morning and decreases throughout the day. A few people also do well late at night if their day isn’t too demanding.

– Schedule your more demanding mental tasks earlier in the day. Save the simpler items for later when your focus is weaker.

3. Practice focusing. You can’t be good at something you don’t practice. It’s harder to focus deeply than you think.

Try setting a timer for 15 minutes and keep your attention entirely on performing a task. Notice how stray thoughts constantly interfere. Notice how strong the urge to check your email, text messages, social media becomes.

– Over time, you’ll be able to focus for longer periods of time before you need a break.

4. Remove distractions. Make life easier for yourself by removing as many distractions as possible. Put your phone away. Turn off the TV. Block any websites that you find compelling. Close any computer tabs you don’t need. Remove any distracting sounds. Turn off the radio.

5. Learn to be comfortable with being bored. When you’re focused and working, it can also be boring. Most of us choose to distract ourselves because we’re bored. The better you can handle boredom, the easier it is to avoid engaging in those distractions.

– When you have the urge to distract yourself, force yourself to wait 15 minutes longer. After a few days of this, try 30 minutes. Keep building on this.

6. Plan time for your most common distractions. You don’t have to avoid your favorites distractions 100% of the time. Simply schedule time for those activities after your work has been completed for the day. Put a reasonable limit on how long you’ll spend on them.

7. Get enough sleep. Sleep is important for focus and energy. Your brain needs at least seven hours of sleep to be at its best. Have consistent times for going to bed and waking up.

– Try sleeping for seven hours each night for a week and rate your ability to focus. The following week try 7.5 hours. If you see an improvement, try eight hours. Keep going if necessary and find the optimum amount of sleep for you.

8. Eat healthy foods. Your body and brain function better when you eat in a healthy manner. Your focus improves with a healthy diet. Start by eliminating everything you know isn’t good for you – one at a time will work.

Life is a never-ending series of distractions. The most successful people are able to focus in spite of distractions. It takes practice to focus intently in the face of other things vying for our attention. Incorporate these tips into your daily schedule and you’ll see your ability to focus grow.

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I accept a challenge.

I accept a challenge.

It is uncommon for me to pass up opportunities because of their level of difficulty. Taking on something that tests my drive and creativity is good for my overall development.

Consistent fitness is difficult to maintain with my hectic work schedule, but I commit to it. I know that there are benefits to be gained by staying in shape.

Each week, I choose to make my workouts more intense than the week before. That is the way to gain continued benefit from the routines. When I sense my body getting used to a particular level of intensity, I increase it to challenge myself.

The triumph of completing the new level successfully brings a sense of pride. It reminds me that I am a warrior. I am strong enough to take on anything.

Competition is healthy because it allows me to test my resolve. In competitions, I focus on myself instead of others. The race is between the old me and the version that is committed to reaching higher heights.

The thrill in accepting a challenge is seeing whether I am able to bypass my past performance and set new records.

I keep that goal in my mind each month when I set my targets at work. Instead of worrying about how well my co-workers are doing, I concentrate on my own performance. I know that I have the ability to dig deeper to produce outstanding results.

Today, any challenge that comes my way is a chance to reinforce what I already know about myself. I have the ability to take on any tough situation.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What are some of the toughest challenges that I face at work?
  2. How do my personal relationships challenge me?
  3. How do I know when it is time to concede victory to a competitor?

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